如果喜欢的球队输了,你该怎么办?

更新日期:2018-09-20
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这几天,世界杯赛场上的较量如火如荼,朋友圈里的世界杯也踢得热火朝天。

虽然古话说,胜败乃兵家常事,但是眼看自己喜欢的球队被虐,也是心痛不已

作为一个不懂球的人,主页君这几天的朋友圈互动几乎为0.

只能跟着小伙伴转转几个世界杯段子乐呵乐呵,比如:

 

或者是对着男模天团”舔个屏:

以及,借着看(kan)(lian)的由头,啤酒小龙虾爽一波

 


 

看到朋友圈里的真假球迷因为喜欢的球队被虐而捶胸顿足,主页君想起了前段时间在某论坛上看到的一个帖子:

每次自己喜欢的球队输球大家都是什么感觉?

 

下面回复可以说是很心碎了:

 

隔着屏幕都感受得到心塞

 

 并且,输球的痛苦无国界Quora上也有人分享输球的体验

 

 

这位网友详细地讲述了不同情况下输球的体验,有时候自豪里带着失落,有时候充满希望,有时候精疲力尽、伤心难过、痛不欲生,最后还有可能会脱粉......

 

可以说是带着真情实感在观赛了。

总结看来,输球有可能导致球迷轻度至重度沮丧、悲痛、失望等等复杂的情绪,完全不亚于女孩子姨妈来临前的情绪风暴

 

那么,万一你喜欢的球队输了球,你该怎么办

 

主页君在网上溜达的时候,在wikiHow上发现了这么一篇一本正经又图文并茂的“情绪疏导”指南,提供了了几个可以疏导输球情绪的Tips

 

方法一:Reacting to a Loss 积极面对输球结果

 

 

1.Acknowledge your feelings. Sometimes people allow things like the performance of their favorite team to affect their emotions. That’s okay. If you are angry or upset about your team losing, don’t pretend otherwise. Give yourself a chance to vent a little bit, or at least be disappointed.


逃避和暴力解决不了问题,不要假装不在乎

Keep control. Because it’s only a game, there is no reason for your anger or sadness to lead to personally destructive behavior. If you are at the game, go ahead and yell a bit, but avoid shouting at other fans (especially fans of the other team). Avoid stirring up fights or throwing things as well.


但也要控制自己的情绪,以免做出破坏性的行为,如果在观赛的话你可以喊来,但是不要骂其他球迷,尤其是其他队的球迷,以免引起斗殴事件。

 

2. Talk to other fans. Sports are a great communal experience, and even if you are watching alone at home, there are other people out there enjoying the game too....If you are going to suffer, it’s better to do so with other fans.

多和其他球迷谈心。和球迷朋友们聊一聊,来释放一些不满。

 

当然,如果你还是很难过,和其他球迷一起难过会比较好。

 

 

3. Eat something. Food can be a great comfort when faced with disappointment, including watching your team lose. Just make sure to eat healthy if you can....Avoid overeating.

还可以吃点爽心美食安慰自己。但是记住要吃健康的食物

而且不要暴饮暴食

 

对于吃货来说,应该是完美的解决办法了。至于主页君,难过了只想花钱买买买……既伤心又伤钱

 

4. Turn off the TV. If you are watching the game, and your team loses, you don’t have to wallow in your disappointment. Turn off the television and do something else. Find another activity to take your mind off of the result.

关掉电视,暂时不要关注赛事,做点别的转移下注意力, 看看书,做做饭,看个电影什么的

 

5. Get a little exercise. Some physical activity can be a good way to work off the frustration of watching your team go down in defeat......It can also give you an energy boost and stave off further anxiety over your team’s performance.

运动也可以帮你摆脱压力和失落,缓解你的焦虑

 

6. Remember it’s just a game. Your life is full of more important things than who wins and loses a game that you aren’t even playing in. While people can lose sight of this in the excitement of a game, it is always a good reminder after a loss. This doesn’t make your disappointment at losing any less real, but can help you move past it quickly.

继续你的生活,毕竟只是一场比赛,人生还有很多更重要的事情.


其实这个也适用于很多生活中的挫折,毕竟人生很长,美好的事物还在后面。


方法二:Handling Disappointment Going Forward 放下沮丧情绪,继续向前

1.  Accept your impotence. There is nothing you can do to affect the outcome of a game, including wearing those lucky socks. Your team didn’t lose because you didn’t cheer loudly enough or sat in the wrong seat. Their failure is not your failure.

接受你无法改变结果的事实,你喜欢的球队不会因为你加油声音不够大而输掉比赛。他们的失败不是你的失败。


One way to give yourself a little more control is to play as your team in a video game. 

Playing fantasy sports is a way to be more active with the sport. 


你可以试试玩一玩游戏,在虚拟世界里实现自己想要的结果,也能够改善情绪。

 

2. Stay loyal to your team. One loss shouldn’t be enough to drive you from supporting your team...... Plus, sticking it out through the bad times will make it feel even better when your team does win the big one.

 

但是,无论如何都不要脱粉陪它一起成长的过程会让你在看到它获得巨大成功的时候倍感幸福。



3. Remember the good times. While losses hurt, no team loses all the time...... Remember great comebacks, championships, or even just good times with friends and family watching your team. If you’ve watched your team before this game, there will be some moments you can look back on fondly.

 记住有关它的一切伟大的时刻,会让你觉得一切都还很美好。

 

4.  Be prepared to deal with taunting from other fans. Taunting, insults, and banter are parts of the sports fan experience, and you’ll almost certainly be a target after losing. Rather than being surprised when it happens, be prepared to handle it appropriately. 

 

不必理会来自其他队的球迷鄙视,但是也可以恰当地回击,虽然不能改变结果,但好歹也能帮你发泄一下内心的不满。

5. Be optimistic. The great thing about sports is that there will always be another game. Another game means another chance to win. 

保持乐观,不要固守于这一场输掉的比赛,因为永远都会有下一场比赛等着你,下一场比赛就意味着下一次赢得机会。

  

6. Talk to a therapist. ...... If you find that a loss is affecting your ability to live in the real world, look for professional help..

 

如果以上办法都无法打开你内心的郁结,可能专业的心理疏导会有所帮助

 

以上可以说是很暖心的一篇安抚鸡汤了。

 

同样,在知乎上也有一个类似的问题:喜欢的球队输球了如何调整心态?

 

多数人对于对赛的结果还是会尽量保持淡定的,比如这位网友觉得,陪伴的过程比结果更加重要当然某些特殊情况除外:

 

这位网友选择暂时放下一切关注,冷处理

  

或者用金钱抚平伤痛

与球队一起成长,积累信心

 

以及输多了可能就佛系了

 

无论怎样,有比赛就有输赢,说不定下一场比赛,你喜欢的球队就赢了呢?!

 

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